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by Katherine Sullivan (Author)
The Neurodivergent Couple is the first book written specifically for couples where one or both partners are neurodivergent - autistic, ADHD, or both - who want to understand what is actually happening between them. Not what should be happening. What is.
You have been trying to reach each other for years. You just did not have the right dictionary.
You love each other. That much is clear. What is less clear is why the same conversation keeps ending somewhere neither of you intended. Why the person who is warm and capable in the world seems to become someone different at home. Why you can go through the same moment and come out of it with completely different experiences of what just happened.
This is not a failure of love. It is a failure of translation.
You will learn why the shutdown that looks like contempt is a nervous system at its limit. Why the explosion that looks like aggression arrives before thinking can intervene and passes faster than it should. Why the person who remembered every detail about you in the first year cannot reliably remember a commitment made last week. Why the withdrawal from physical touch after a long day has nothing to do with desire and everything to do with sensory load. Why autistic burnout looks like depression but responds to completely different things. Why hyperfocus moved on from you and what that actually means about the love that is still there.
This book does not ask either of you to be different from what you are. It asks both of you to understand each other accurately, for possibly the first time. And it gives you the specific tools, the scripts, the frameworks, and the shared language to do that.
Through the stories of Nora and Daniel, Sofia and James, Marco and Tom, Priya and Kieran, and others, you will see your own relationship described with a precision that may feel, at moments, like being read. That is exactly what this book is supposed to feel like.
For the neurodivergent person who has spent years in relationships trying to be understood. For the partner who loves someone neurodivergent and has not always known what they were loving. For the couple who suspects that what they thought was incompatibility might actually be translation.
Part of the Shining Minds series.
